http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-manage-your-inner-critic Make Your Own Luck Sun, 29 Jan 2012 21:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-5088 You Are Your Own Worst Enemy, But That’s a Good Thing — Happenchance Fri, 27 May 2011 19:02:48 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-5088 [...] We sabotage our own best efforts by letting our inner critic run amok. Unchecked, it will relentlessly undermine our confidence, leaving us shaking like a wilted leaf in a winter windstorm and blighted with malignant uncertainty. Fortunately, this inner critic can be managed and sometimes even co-opted. Learn to manage your inner critic. [...] [...] We sabotage our own best efforts by letting our inner critic run amok. Unchecked, it will relentlessly undermine our confidence, leaving us shaking like a wilted leaf in a winter windstorm and blighted with malignant uncertainty. Fortunately, this inner critic can be managed and sometimes even co-opted. Learn to manage your inner critic. [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-5079 James St. James Tue, 24 May 2011 16:40:00 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-5079 I like how you describe the inner critic as "...an accumulation of negative experiences that accumulate about us like iron shavings around a magnet." I can relate to feeling so fuzzy that I've lost much of my magnetism (my created purpose).   I have had a makeover in terms of this inner voice over the last 2 years - where I have broken down any mind-barriers to my success. The world has opened up, and I am free to do anything, it just involves my choosing to. An example: I have stopped saying I cannot afford something. I have started asking "how can I afford this" and after counting the cost, deciding whether it is worth it or not. Since it is usually not, I end up with the same result, but feel empowered.   I also realized my weakness. I have a difficult manager at work, and I think I have labeled my inner critic at work as her voice. I'll need to work this out and be honest about what is my inner voice. I think I have internalized her criticism. I like how you describe the inner critic as “…an accumulation of negative experiences that accumulate about us like iron shavings around a magnet.” I can relate to feeling so fuzzy that I’ve lost much of my magnetism (my created purpose).
 
I have had a makeover in terms of this inner voice over the last 2 years – where I have broken down any mind-barriers to my success. The world has opened up, and I am free to do anything, it just involves my choosing to. An example: I have stopped saying I cannot afford something. I have started asking “how can I afford this” and after counting the cost, deciding whether it is worth it or not. Since it is usually not, I end up with the same result, but feel empowered.
 
I also realized my weakness. I have a difficult manager at work, and I think I have labeled my inner critic at work as her voice. I’ll need to work this out and be honest about what is my inner voice. I think I have internalized her criticism.

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-5025 5 Simple-Yet-Powerful Tools for Defeating Resistance — Happenchance Wed, 11 May 2011 21:03:52 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-5025 [...] when I’m fresh from a good night’s sleep. I’m not sure why this is effective; perhaps the inner critic hasn’t had a chance to wake up. Maybe stress levels are lower and it’s easier to achieve [...] [...] when I’m fresh from a good night’s sleep. I’m not sure why this is effective; perhaps the inner critic hasn’t had a chance to wake up. Maybe stress levels are lower and it’s easier to achieve [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-3763 Creating Conditions for Creativity | Happenchance Fri, 15 Oct 2010 12:13:21 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-3763 [...] Besides building your skills and developing confidence, you usually need a clear idea of what you want to create, as well as a way to get some feedback on your work. Some activities have built-in feedback (competitive sports and video games, for example). However, for most of us, interpreting feedback is a balancing act between closely scrutinizing our own work while keeping our inner critic from running amok. (Read more about How to Manage Your Inner Critic) [...] [...] Besides building your skills and developing confidence, you usually need a clear idea of what you want to create, as well as a way to get some feedback on your work. Some activities have built-in feedback (competitive sports and video games, for example). However, for most of us, interpreting feedback is a balancing act between closely scrutinizing our own work while keeping our inner critic from running amok. (Read more about How to Manage Your Inner Critic) [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-1542 8 Reasons to Start a Writers’ Group | Happenchance Wed, 28 Apr 2010 13:25:52 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-1542 [...] the futility of spending three hours rearranging a couple of sentences. Apply the 80/20 rule, kill the inner critic and watch your output quadruple. After you get some feedback, then fix those sentences…if [...] [...] the futility of spending three hours rearranging a couple of sentences. Apply the 80/20 rule, kill the inner critic and watch your output quadruple. After you get some feedback, then fix those sentences…if [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-565 Week 2 Roundup | Happenchance Sun, 17 Jan 2010 15:03:40 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-565 [...] Ways to Conquer Self Doubt could be a continuation on an article I wrote about managing your inner critic. My favorite tip is to go back in time and ask yourself when you first starting worrying about a [...] [...] Ways to Conquer Self Doubt could be a continuation on an article I wrote about managing your inner critic. My favorite tip is to go back in time and ask yourself when you first starting worrying about a [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-491 How to Manage Stage Fright: Not Just For Musicians | Happenchance Wed, 06 Jan 2010 11:46:50 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-491 [...] as we’ve already covered, we are our own harshest critics and our fear of failure does more to stop us than any actual audience member ever could. We also [...] [...] as we’ve already covered, we are our own harshest critics and our fear of failure does more to stop us than any actual audience member ever could. We also [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-471 How to Manage the Fear of Failure | Happenchance Tue, 05 Jan 2010 01:28:23 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-471 [...] to Creating Amazing Things. Previous articles have dealt with removing physical barriers and managing your inner critic. This big honker of a post will examine our attitudes toward failure and end with some strategies [...] [...] to Creating Amazing Things. Previous articles have dealt with removing physical barriers and managing your inner critic. This big honker of a post will examine our attitudes toward failure and end with some strategies [...]

]]> http://www.happenchance.net/how-to-manage-your-inner-critic/comment-page-1/#comment-466 Removing Physical Barriers to Creating Amazing Things | Happenchance Tue, 05 Jan 2010 01:23:41 +0000 http://www.happenchance.net/?p=1244#comment-466 [...] This series continues with Removing Barriers Series: How to Mange Your Inner Critic and How to Manage Fear of [...] [...] This series continues with Removing Barriers Series: How to Mange Your Inner Critic and How to Manage Fear of [...]

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